Young Hackers Don’t Want to Hack for Money – So What Do They Want?

A new study that was conducted by the National Crime Agency suggests that teenage hackers hack things to impress their friends, not because of money.

The agency interviewed several young hackers ranging from 12 to 17, who were caught conducting online criminal activity. When interviewed, they said their motives for hacking were not for money, theft or fraud, but leaned more towards peer approval.

The office of National Crime Agency, London.

Paul Hoare, a senior manager at the National Crime Agency’s Cyber Crime Unit, who led the study, said the hackers were motivated more by the complexity of the problem and how to solve issues for peer approval, rather than financial gain.

In an interview conducted by the local radio station, Hoare stated that these young kids do not understand the problems businesses, governments, individuals and other online entities have to go through to keep themselves safe.

Hoare credits these individuals with having amazing hacking capabilities, and that if put to good use, these individuals could market their skills in the world of cyber security – to make the online world a safer place while earning a wage.

Officers of the National Crime Agency working with the police.

However, the National Crime Agency Intelligence Assessment report, Pathways into Cyber Crime, states that solving the complex problem is more of a cognitive satisfaction to these individuals, which is more important to them than job security.

Jake Leslie Davis, known as Topiary, a former member of LulzSec and other similar groups, explained that he was motivated by the politics, and how the government wanted to change the internet – not money. Davis says that he wanted the internet to be free for everyone and free from the limitations the government was imposing upon it.

A recent picture of Jake Davis the former member of LulzSec.

Davis was sentenced to 24 months in a juvenile detention center for his days as a hacker, where he served his time while banned from using the internet. He stated that his ideology hasn’t changed during his incarceration but admits that he went a little off course.

He admits today that there are more realistic and legal opportunities in the world of cyber security, such as the bug bounty programs that companies and governments offer to hackers to find vulnerabilities.

There are websites like Hacker One that allow people with enthusiasm to hack for good purposes, and to help make companies more secure while being rewarded with various bounties.


11 Very Rare & Fascinating Photos Of Nikola Tesla

Nikola Tesla’s genius is undeniable, but what separates him from so many other famous figures is his humanity, his desire to do good for the planet and all that live upon it.

He was not interested in making money, and according to many, was taken advantage of by wealthy businessman. Despite that, Tesla remains one of the most notable scientists/minds in recorded history. From the Tesla Oscillator to his vision of free energy for all, he made several inventions that threatened the control that the global elite were working on acquiring.

For me, Tesla’s most important scientific contribution (although hardly ever noted) is his support for non-material science, something that’s still ridiculed to this day. He has been famously quoted as saying, in fact, that “the day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.”

Today, an internationally recognized group of scientists are working to bring this idea to the forefront, because the fact that matter (protons, electrons, photons, or anything that has a mass) is not the only reality is still greatly overlooked in the mainstream scientific community. We wish to understand the nature of our reality, but how can we do so if we are continually examining only physical systems? What about the role of non-physical systems, such as consciousness, or their interaction with physical systems (matter)? You can read a little more about that subject in a previous article here.

Another factor that attracted me to Tesla was his acknowledgment and understanding of spirituality and the importance of merging it with modern day science in order to better understand the true nature of what we call reality. Not many people are aware of the fact that Tesla was in contact with Swami Vivekananda (1863-1902), one of the most famous and influential spiritual leaders of the philosophies of yoga and Vedanta. One of the six schools of Hindu philosophy, Vedanta originally referred to the Upanishads, a collection of philosophical texts in Hinduism. Tesla was also the chief disciple of Ramakrishna Paramahamsa, and founded the Ramakrishna Math and Ramakrishna Mission. He is a giant figure in the history of the Hindu reform movements.

Mr. Tesla thinks he can demonstrate mathematically that force and matter are reducible to potential energy. I am to go and see him next week to get this new mathematical demonstration. In that case, the Vedantic cosmology will be placed on the surest of foundations. I am working a good deal now upon the cosmology and eschatology of the Vedanta. I clearly see their perfect union with modern science, and the elucidation of the one will be followed by that of the other.” 

– Swami Vivekananda, in a letter to Tesla (Complete Works, Vol. V, Fifth Edition, 1347, p. 77). (1)

Tesla began using the Sanskrit words after meeting with Swami and after studying the Eastern view of the true nature of reality and the mechanisms that drive the material world. This eventually led to his development of the wireless transmission of electrical power, or what is known as the Tesla Coil Transformer. In this same year he made the following comments during a speech before the American Institute of Electrical Engineers, given before he familiarized himself with the Vedic teachings of India, Tibet, and Nepal:


His spiritual nature is made clear in this quote:

“All perceptible matter comes from a primary substance, or tenuity beyond conception, filling all space, the Akasha or luminiferous ether, which is acted upon by the life-giving Prana or creative force, calling into existence, in never ending cycles all things and phenomena.”

– Nikola Tesla, Man’s Greatest Achievement, 1907 (1)(2)

Now let us gaze into the past of a person whose legacy will live on forever, as we continue to uphold his vision for a better Earth.

You can read more about how Vedic philosophy influenced his idea of energy here.

Tesla at the age of 37


Tesla looks out the door of his laboratory in Colorado Springs. The image was taken in 1899

High voltage experiments, supposedly taken in 1899

Tesla sitting in front of one of his electrical generators

Tesla and one of his inventions, taken in 1916

Nikola Tesla photographed working in his office at 8 West 40th Street. The image was taken in 1916

This image shows a gas-filled phosphor coated light bulb which Tesla developed in the 1890s. Half a century later fluorescent lamps came into use

Tesla performing a test as he carries a lamp a few meters from the generator, but it continues to shine. The image was taken in 1898.

Tesla during a demonstration of “wireless” transmission of electricity in the Houston Street laboratory in March 1899

Nikola Tesla with Westinghouse Engineers explaining his model of Rotating Magnetic Field

Mysterious: What Aren’t They Telling Us About Antarctica?

What does Secretary of Defense James Forrestal’s suspicious death, German WWII bases and UFO technology, and a US military operation of near 5,000 men engaged in to invade barren lands have in common? Antarctica, of course.

ANTARCTICA – The most sadistic of lands; sub-zero temperatures, unforgiving terrain, evil penguins perhaps; Antarctica is largely a mystery to civilians…but Happy Feet aside, have you ever questioned why?

Antarctica, the coldest climate on earth, has always been shrouded in mystery. What we do know is it’s a desolate region and is the world’s fifth largest continent, with 99.5 percent of its body covered in ice. East Antarctica is around the size of Australia and the West is made up of a series of frozen islands stretching towards South America’s southern tip.

Because there is little rainfall, Antarctica is classified as a dessert, but rather than sandstorms, there are blizzards with winds of up to 320 km/hr.

Exploration reportedly occurred from circa 1820 onward.

But what we don’t know is far greater.

For example, at the end of World War II Operation Highjump was initiated. Some will say the US hit the panic button, and conspiracy theorists amongst others, forever question why.

Between Aug. 1946 and Feb. 1947, Operation Highjump was engaged in what some describe as an invasion of Antarctica. One story of the events suggests the US panicking to protect the United States from ‘flying objects.’

Another less exciting version of events is the military investigating and exploring for mineral deposits, namely coal, and to also establish training for personnel; and determining, establishing and maintaining possible US bases.

But whatever the task at hand for decorated Admiral Richard E. Byrd, the notable leader assigned to the operation, it also involved multiple aircraft, 13 Naval ships, an aircraft carrier: the USS Philippine Sea, and close to 5,000 men.

Admiral Richard E. Byrd was a highly decorated American Naval Officer who specialized in exploration, particularly that of the Antarctica.

This display of military strength occurred shortly after World War 2 and while economies were struggling to stay afloat. The Cold War was also looming as Russia started to rise as a possible superpower and thus, begged the question of why the US would place so much money and manpower into traveling to the harshest, a supposed unpopulated region in the world.

Little information has ever been released about Operation Highjump, but the operation was launched with speed and secrecy. At the time, even then, the media were suspicious about the vast amounts of military power required for the journey.

Admiral Ramsey stated at the time: “the Chief of Naval Operations only will deal with other governmental agencies” and that “no diplomatic negotiations are required. No foreign observers will be accepted.”

A cave was found on Google maps recently, adding more fuel to the fire of underground German bases and the theory that the planet is hollow.

Over 70,000 aerial photographs were taken during 220 hours of flight time and it was all shrouded in secrecy. Several men had been reported as losing their lives in plane crashes.

Upon arrival home, Byrd was “summoned to Washington and interrogated by the Security Services” before meeting with Secretary of Defense James Forrestal. Following, “Adm. Byrd declared today that it was imperative for the United States to initiate immediate defense measures against hostile regions,” reported the El Mercurio, a news outlet in Chile, on March 5, 1947.

The declaration Byrd made is what captures all those who love the conspiracy. Flying objects that “fly from Pole to Pole with incredible speeds” were the new threat. But who were the new enemies, given Germany had just suffered a defeating blow in the War? Some say it was the remnants of the German army and bases established in Antarctica. Others aren’t so sure.

But it was the flying objects that dominated this mystery. One theory put forward was Nazi Germany’s ability to have established UFO bases for their secret Nazi weapons. But would this have instigated such a heavy-handed military response under the guise of exploration – when the Germans had already been defeated?

Was there a German base in Antarctica? Reportedly, Hitler had instigated explorations to the Poles before World War II. After WWII, 250,000 Germans were allegedly unaccounted for.

The other conspiratorial factor surrounds the death of Secretary of War James Forrestal– the chap who’d summoned Byrd to Washington. Forrestal had started talking to people of what he’d heard about the Operation Highjump mission, and was also highly critical of the then Truman administration. Soon, he was declared insane and committed to Bethesda Naval Hospital. His family sued the government for his release and won, but only a day before his due freedom, Forrestal fell to his death. Although declared suicide, scratch marks were noted all over the closed window he fell from. The suicide note left wasn’t in his handwriting, and many other questionable factors arose.

Today, Antarctica remains mysterious. Government nondisclosure continues. Around 30 nations now operate research stations bases on the continent. The Antarctic Treatydemands scientific research and collaboration without a military presence, yet the military do present time and again…

Google maps also reveal massive entrances into caves, some purporting them to being UFO bases or maybe old German ones.  In 2012, the Antarctica got stranger as a 14-mile “thing” was discovered sticking out of the ice, on Google maps around 400 miles south of the caves.

And Lockheed Martin has a contract for “scientific research” in Antarctica. Something that was revealed accidently only last year, and begs the question again, why?

According to Disclose TV:

“From the years 1983-1997, researchers and scientists studying the Antarctic report observing flying cargo, in the form of “silver disks”, circling around the Transantarctic Mountains. The crew of researchers also reported seeing a large hole beside ancient ruins, located only 5 miles from the geographic South Pole. All this took place around the same area, a supposed no-fly zone.

The researchers did not think much of it, but during an emergency medevac situation, the researchers flew over the no-fly zone, and looking down, saw something that they should have never seen. Remotely beneath the surface was a supposed extraterrestrial and human research base. Well after this, the scientists who operated there went missing for two weeks, and when they were found several miles away, the pilots who picked them up said that the researchers looked scared.”

Antarctica is shrouded, shrouded in secrecy as much as it is in ice. I guess those 6 million evil penguins have something to hide from the world after all.

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Man Spends 36 Years Carving Into Mountainside To Provide His Village With Water

How much of your life would you give to carve into not one, but three sheer, rocky, mountainside cliffs to provide water to your drought-stricken village? A tenacious man named Huang Dafa spent 36 years carving a 10-kilometer water channel. He kept going after several failed attempts, and people called him a fool. He is now a celebrated figure in his community at the ripe age of 82.

Huang Dafa was once scorned, but he’s now a local hero.

Dafa was sneered at when he first suggested cutting into a mountainside cliff in Caowangba within China’s Guizhou Province with hand tools. Locals called him a foolish man. They thought he might be crazy. He is now compared to the legendary figure, Yu Gong, whose determination was so profound, it caused the Gods to move mountains for him.

Dafa’s first attempt to create a mountainside irrigation channel failed, but it did create a tunnel through the mountains making it easier for people to travel.

This 10-kilometer tunnel was carved to bring water to 3 different villages.

He realized that he needed more knowledge to complete the project successfully, so part-way through he abandoned his efforts temporarily after finally having compelled some fellow villagers to help him chip into the mountainside. He left to study engineering.

Workers had to lower themselves from the highest cliffs to chisel away at the rock.
When he returned, he had a more meticulous plan. Workers often slept in mountain caves to finish the carving, high above and away from their families.

Huang Dafa is now called a living Yu Gong, after the mythical figure who convinced the Gods to move mountains.

Huang Dafa is now called a living Yu Gong, after the mythical figure who convinced the Gods to move mountains.

Huang and the villagers started from higher elevations and rappelled down the mountain this time. Ropes were tied around their waists like a special-forces team- albeit they were simply farmers armed with only rudimentary tools. Some reported that their legs, “melted” from the hard work.

Dafa couldn’t even get to his own daughter and grandson’s funerals who died while he was working on the project, but the plan worked.

Dafa’s irrigation channel cut into a mountain face now supplies 1,200 people in his own small village with water and three others that just happened to be along the 10-kilometer channel. His village can now grow more than 400,000 kilograms of rice every year, too. And to sweeten his success, the town now has electricity and a new road which came due to his efforts.

His ambitious project began in 1959 and required 36 years of hard labor to complete, but his village is now thriving, and he is a local hero, worthy of the mythical status of Yu Gong.

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New Documents Reveal NSA Concealed Records On JFK Assassination For Decades

The mystery of the brutal killing of John F. Kennedy keeps deepening. In 1964, the Warren Commission, established to investigate the assassination, concluded that JFK was assassinated by Lee Harvey Oswald, that Oswald acted entirely alone, and that there was no evidence of a conspiracy, foreign or domestic. But the Commission’s findings proved controversial and challenged by later studies.

In 1992, Congress approved, and former President George H.W. Bush signed, the JFK Assassination Records Collection Act. The act mandated the disclosure of all assassination-related records no later than 25 years after its signing. The deadline expired on October 26, 2017.

President Trump had initially told the public he was ready to declassify all assassination-related documents; however, he changed his mind and withheld some of the documents at the last minute, citing national security and international diplomacy concerns. Many observers claim Trump caved in to the demand of intelligence agencies to keep the files a secret.

But two documents provided by the National Security Agency (NSA) whistle-blower Edward Snowden reveal how closely the intelligence community has held information related to Soviet Union’s as well as Cuba’s potential role in the assassination. The Intercept reports:

“Among the details deemed “top secret” in the JFK assassination guide are the NSA’s efforts to target and intercept Cuban diplomats’ and agents’ communications, as well as its knowledge of the cover names of the Cuban agents whose communications it was listening in on.”

Why did the NSA kept these documents secret for many years? William LeoGrande, professor of government at American University and co-author of “Back Channel to Cuba: The Hidden History of Negotiations between Washington and Havana”, told The Intercept:

“It may be that the Cuban diplomats and agents involved are still active. Remember that the Cubans who entered the revolutionary government were very young at the time.”


Was the 35th President of the United States assassinated as a conspiracy? Conspiracy theorists claim JFK was killed by a coalition of anti-Castro Cubans, the Mob, and the CIA (After the Bay of Pigs Invasion debacle, JKF wanted “to splinter the CIA into a thousand pieces and scatter it to the winds”).

Did he prepare his own death warrant? So it seems. The speech he made in his first 100 days in office, and the Executive Order he signed in an attempt to eliminate the Federal Reserve System about two years later, apparently got John F. Kennedy Killed.

via: Anonymous

Revelation: Judeo-Christian Bible Twice as Violent as Islamic Quran

In the last few decades, the world has witnessed extreme violence, mostly associated with adherents of the Islamic faith. Especially after the 9//11 attacks and the subsequent invasion of the U.S. in Iraq and other places in the Middle East on the pretext of fighting terror, violence associated with Islam has rose to an unprecedented level.

Currently, there are numerous so-called jihadist groups using Islam as a cloak to perpetuate all kinds of crimes around the world. The Western mainstream media has deliberately tagged these extremist groups with Islam, making it look as though these groups are acting in accordance with the teachings of their religion.



But of course, many observers maintain that these groups have nothing to do with Islam. They fight for power, control and money. Their real goal is political authority so that they can control people based on their whims and caprices. We also know that these groups receive covert support from Western intelligence agencies, helping them to carry out their heinous crimes.

Extremist and terrorist groups including ISIS, al-Qaeda, Boko Haram, al Shabab, Taliban and others aligning themselves with Islam, are doing it under false pretense. Islam is one of the four Abrahamic religions that represent peace and tranquility on Earth. In fact, one needs not go beyond the first chapter of the Holy Quran (Sūrat al-Fātiḥah) to understand the teachings of Islam. The chapter specifically requests adherents to constantly ask for direction from God in order to be counted among the righteous people in the afterlife.

In order to set the record straight regarding violence in the popular Abrahamic religions, a software engineer named Tom Anderson compared the number of violent scenarios in the Islamic Quran to that of the Judeo-Christian Bible.Islamic

Although Tom stressed that his goal is not to prove or disprove that Islam is more violent than other religions, he admitted the study was inspired by the ongoing public debate on whether or not terrorism connected with Islamic fundamentalism reflects something inherently and distinctly violent about Islam, compared to other major religions.

According to Tom, he used a text analytics software he had developed, the Odin Text, to analyze both the New International Version of both the Old and New Testaments of the Judeo-Christian Bible, as well as an English-language version of the Quran, translated in 1957.

Tom explained it took just two minutes for his software to read and analyze the three books. By categorizing words into eight emotions – Joy, Anticipation, Anger, Disgust, Sadness, Surprise, Fear/Anxiety and Trust – the analysis found the Bible scored higher for anger and much lower for trust than the Quran.


Also, the analysis found that the Old Testament was more violent than the New Testament, and more than twice as violent as the Quran. The analysis further found killing and destruction occurred more frequently in the Judeo- Christian texts than the Islamic Quran.

“Of the three texts, the content in the Old Testament appears to be the most violent. Killing and destruction are referenced slightly more often in the New Testament (2.8%) than in the Quran (2.1%), but the Old Testament clearly leads—more than twice that of the Quran—in mentions of destruction and killing (5.3%),” Tom explained.


12 reasons why people betray their partners

Cheating in a relationship may be the worst thing to do but the fact also remains that a lot of people do cheat and they also do it quite often. Cheating, of course, is a betrayal of someone’s trust and it should lead one to seriously rethink their relationship but one should also understand what led their partners to cheat. It is in no way a justification for cheating but here we have 12 most common reasons why people betray their partners.

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#1 The couple wasn’t ready

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Sometimes, the couple gets into a relationship on impulse. They haven’t spent enough time together and do not know each other, as well as they should have before getting serious. With time, they start focusing on the negative aspects of their partners and as they do so, their propensity to cheat increases phenomenally.


#2 Sex sucks

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Sometimes, it is actually about the sex. No matter how much they try, the couple just can’t get in sync when it comes to sex. They may have different expectations, wishes, or something else which just does not fit. Sex becomes poorer by the day and they end up looking for different partners.


#3 Trapped in a relationship

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It often happens that one or the other partner feels like they are trapped in the relationship. It may be that the other partner is dominating or unreasonable, but the feeling of being trapped can really make one anxious. This feeling does induce the thoughts of cheating in the partner.


#4 For revenge

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One of the partners may have hurt the other, they may have done something which is unacceptable for the other or it could be that the partner resents something about the other. This is actually one of the most common reasons why people betray their partners and they also do it guilt-free.


#5 Accidentally

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Sometimes, people don’t mean to cheat but the circumstances are such that they lose control and end up cheating. It is, yet again, not justified in any way but there is always some scope of basic human errors and people do fall for temptation all the time.


#6 Out of fear

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At times, when the relationship starts getting serious, people start getting cold feet. They start contemplating their choices and rethinking their decisions. They start fearing stagnation and missing the date periods. So, they do end up cheating out of sheer fear of commitment

#7 Desire for new sexual experience

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People’s sex lives can seriously stagnate in a relationship. They fall into a rut and the sex becomes routine and mundane. It is obvious to look for new experiences and they do try to find it in their partners but if they don’t they look for opportunities to cheat.

#8 Lack of true intimacy

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Intimacy is extremely important in a relationship. It involves the freedom to speak to your partner without fear or favor. When a partner feels that they are constrained and cannot find the freedom they seek, they look for the same in other people. And if they find a person who makes them feel more intimate, they do cheat.

#9 Thrill seeking

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Sometimes, people are just looking for some kind of thrill or a rush in their lives. They feel bored and out of their minds with the regularity of their lives. Cheating does provide a thrill unlike any other and the temptation of that thrill drives people towards cheating.

#10 Lack of emotional validation

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Emotional compatibility is extremely important in a relationship. The partner’s ability to perceive each other’s emotions and acting accordingly can build or break a relationship. Finding emotional validation in your partner is important and when they don’t get it, they start looking for the same in other people.

#11 Falling for someone new

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It is very human to fall for someone apart from your partner. The difference arises if you act on that impulse or not. Not a lot of people have the inner strength to fight this temptation and once they fall for someone else, they look for ways of getting together with them, and hence the infidelity.

#12 Little problems add to one big issue

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Every relationship has problems and actually a lot of them. Relationships that last happen when the couple works towards resolving them one issue at a time. Sometimes, however, these unresolved issues keep building up and they snowball into a large issue. It is at this point that the person feels overwhelmed and cheats as a way of escaping.

Paris Hilton says she and fiancé Chris Zylka never fight. Experts think this isn’t a good sign

Pictures of Paris Hilton and her fiance Chris Zylka paints a perfect picture. More than once, she has remarked how blissful she is in her relationship; the two have even called it their “fairy tale” romance. A romance so magical that they have never had a single fight so far.

Paris Hilton with fiancé Chris Zylka

In November 2017, Hilton told Us Weekly,“I think we’re the only couple that never fights. All my friends are like, ‘Literally, you guys are the perfect couple. I’ve never seen you argue.'”

What? Never? Not even a disagreement? Oh oh.

If you have heard or read a little bit about what relationships have to say, that’s probably your reaction, too.

Before we go into the specifics, let’s break down what fights mean to different people. If by fighting, Paris meant swearing, screaming, name-calling, and breaking things, no fighting is great. But the fact that she proudly quoted her friend who remarked on the fact that they never even “argue”? Well, that is an entirely different thing.

Paris thinks she and Chris make the perfect couple

No matter how in love a couple is, a relationship involves TWO individuals. There is bound to be differences in personality, interests, priorities, at times–values, and quirks. Can perfect communication iron away all these creases caused by these individual differences?

Experts seem to be divided in their views on this.

A few state that conflict is not only inevitable but also healthy. Why? Because it is normal.

1. Conflicts promote honesty and acknowledge differences

Conflict doesn’t indicate hatred or anger, but differences of opinions and preferences. When you acknowledge the differences, you agree that both of you are not clones of each other and that there is indeed something at hand that needs to be paid attention to.

Whether this involves deciding on a vacation spot (trekking in the woods VS chilling on the beach), opting a parenting strategy, or simply clearing out once and for all who would do the dishes on Friday, when you acknowledge the issue, both of you are honest with each other and more importantly honest with yourselves.

Conflicts allow you to be honest with yourself and your partner (Source: Shutterstock)

2. Couples who argue healthily show lesser sign of remorse

When you find yourself getting bugged with how your partner is behaving, the first thing to get your attention is your emotions. There might be a mild irritation, a brewing anger, or sadness. An emotionally healthy individual will a) acknowledge how they feel b) own it c) and do something about it.

Couples who are emotionally honest with each other will find it hard to hide away their feelings. And if they opt for a no-disagreement policy (consciously or unconsciously), these pent up emotions and unsaid qualms will build into resentment. Nothing can kill intimacy more than resentment or the feeling of being wronged or misunderstood.

Avoiding conflict builds resentment (Source: Shutterstock)

3. Being passive-aggressive is worse than verbal disagreement

Giving the cold shoulder or dropping hints indicates a conflict, irrespective of whether you voice your opinions or not. When couples buy into the fantasy of no-fight, they resort to other ways of getting even. This is all the more unhealthy than an open conflict.

Passive-aggressive behavior can be more harmful than open arguments (Source: Shutterstock) 

4. Working through conflicts builds trust and intimacy

When your partner knows that you will tell them when something is wrong makes you trust what they say. It gives no room for those “I’m fine meme” situations where one knows that the other isn’t okay, but doesn’t share what they really feel. Also, when a couple takes the effort to sit with what’s bothering each other and figure out a way, it brings them closer.

The underlying message is “Yes, I hate that you don’t agree with me. This sucks. But I’m willing to figure out a way. That’s why I’m so worked up.” This is different from folks who avoid conflict altogether or dismiss the partner’s feelings as silly or unwarranted. (There she goes again, looking sad and aloof. I better get out and let her cool off.” Or, “He will pout if he doesn’t get his way. Let me just agree with it. I don’t have time for drama.”)

Conflicts allow you to understand your partner’s inner world better (Source: Shutterstock)

But what about folks who thrive on drama and whose lives are snippets of a reality show? There are experts who nod their head in disagreement when they hear fights are healthy. Here’s what they have to say:

1. Fight is a fight, irrespective of the intensity

You don’t need to be throwing things at each other to contest as a fighting couple. While it’s good to express one’s emotions, people often take this as a license to lash out at each other. Name-calling, fault-finding, blaming slips in where the individual pushes the responsibility of the issue on the other person. When couples adopt for no-fight policy, it forces them to sit and reflect on how they might have contributed to the situation.

Fighting can cause a drift rather than resolving an issue (Source: Shutterstock)

2. You often bring in past baggage

Fights are not always about the issue at hand. When couples fight, the emotions that surface run deeper than those caused by a missed appointment or a wrongly executed chore. While the words exchanged might be “I can’t believe you forgot our anniversary” or “How could you like that stupid post when you know how I feel about the subject” the emotions are about “I guess she forgot the anniversary because she doesn’t care anymore. I come second to her.” or “If he doesn’t know how much these issues mean to me, maybe doesn’t know me at all.” These underlying beliefs and thoughts are what we are likely to be reacting to. Fights aggravate these assumptions and put the relationship at stake.

Past baggage can creep into arguments that can escalate the situation (Source: Shutterstock)

3. No-fight policy opens up other ways of communication

When a couple makes a conscious decision to not fight or even argue, they create a pact to handle differences with more maturity and patience. This means choosing to not react when you are worked up, allowing the other person to express what they feel, and talking about it objectively. No-fight policy brings in sensitivity and respect. The couple takes the effort to sit through differences and identify channels of communication that makes the other person feel safe. This is different from arguments that cause the other person to get defensive and, therefore, block the other person out.

Opting a no-fight policy opens up other ways of communication (Source: Shutterstock)

So what you can do?

1. Be honest with yourself

If there is something bothering you, never dismiss or sweep it under the rug.

Own your emotions, no matter what they are. Psychologists would often tell you that no emotions are wrong. You don’t need to feel guilty or ashamed of what you feel. However, you need to be aware of emotions are a result of the thoughts in your head. If your partner forgets an anniversary, check in with the underlying self-talk you are indulging in. It’s likely to be “she doesn’t care for me.” Be objective with the voice in your head. Is it true that she doesn’t really care?

Take time out to be honest with yourself. What is the fight really about? (Source: Shutterstock)

2. Identify the real feelings

Emotions can be confusing, especially in a heated argument. Before you decide to broach a subject or react to your partner, identify what you really feel. In the above case, your partner forgetting the anniversary might on the surface appear like you are pissed off, but scratch a little beneath the anger, and you might find sadness or perhaps even fear. When you acknowledge this, your communication can be more authentic than angry fights. Allowing your partner to see you in a vulnerability increases intimacy, provided they respect courage you took to express it.

3. Stop the blame game

Here’s where it gets tricky. Owning your emotions and doing something about them is different from going berserk and screaming “YOU! You are responsible for this mess. I wish YOU know how much YOU hurt me.” This is blaming. It will still be blaming if you are in tears and saying it softly. When couples are in a conflict, they need to stop one step ahead until they clear out where their emotions might be springing from. Repeated fights convey a hidden pattern. If you often feel your partner doesn’t get you, you need to go to the roots of where this feeling of being misunderstood or not cared for comes from.


Blaming is different from expressing your feelings (Source: Shutterstock)

4. Agree to disagree

You like beaches, your partner prefers hills. Pick one for this year and the other for next year. You feel strongly about minority issues, and your partner doesn’t? This doesn’t mean they care less about others or your view, it is just that their antennae might be tuned into other stimuli of social issues. Missed an anniversary?Apologize and make up for it.



5. Compassion is the key

Remember that beneath all the angry words and unreasonable statements are two hurt people. When you bring in compassion–for yourself (and how vulnerable or threatened you feel) and your partner (who too is hurting and carrying some amount of fear and pain), the need to avenge or blame disappears. Look closely and you will often find that all you and your partner need is the reassurance that you still love and care about each other. This will make you focus on the bigger picture and you might even have a good laugh at how worked up you both got when it wasn’t needed.

Compassion allows you to see that behind the angry words are two people hurting inside (Source: Shutterstock)

A Filipina Is Crowned Miss Belgium 2018

A Filipina beauty queen has been crowned as Miss Belgium 2018. She will represent Belgium in the international pageant scene this year.

Angeline Flor Pua, a 22-year-old from Antwerp, was recently crowned Miss Belgium 2018. Her father is of Chinese descent while her mother is a Filipina.  The pageant website Missosology said Pua is a “pure Filipina” who was raised in Belgium.

Miss Belgium 2018 The lovely Angeline Flor Pua @missflyingangel ✨

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Angeline bagged the Miss Filipina Europe in 2016 while representing the Filipino Community of Belgium. She is studying in a flight school and she wants to become a pilot someday.
Here’s a look at her photos on Instagram:

A video of her crowning moment has also been uploaded on YouTube.

Pua is expected to compete in both Miss Universe 2018 and Miss World 2018, representing Belgium, according to Missosology.

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This Mom Thought She Was Pregnant With Twins – Bursts Into Tears When Doctor Shows The Scan

At the point when 23 year old Alexandra Kinova and her husband Antonin discovered that their family was going to expand, they were blissful.

The couple, from Czech town Milovice two miles from Prague, already had a child – however were eager to welcome another family member.

And their joy only increased when the doctor revealed to them that there were two babies in Alexandra’s tummy, especially since the couple had always planned to have three children.

But the couple were soon called to another doctor’s appointment, where Alexandra and Antonin were given news they could hardly have been prepared for.

When the doctor showed mom Alexandra the scan photo, she was so shocked that she started crying.

The doctor had first said that Alexandra was carrying twins, but then corrected themselves and explained that she was actually carrying triplets.

After further scans, the doctor came to the conclusion that there were 4 fetuses.

But the 23 year old woman’s belly didn’t stop growing, and after a final ultrasound, the unbelievable truth was confirmed: Alexandra was carrying 5 children!

In summer 2013 it was time for the birth, and luckily it all went ahead with no complications.

Four boys and a girl came into the world via C-Section.

There was a little more drama than there needed to be, however.

Dad Antonin nearly missed the historic birth after he got stuck on a delayed train. Luckily the dad managed to make it to the emergency room in time.



“I cried the whole way there because I was sure I was going to miss it,” he says.

This was the first time quintuplets were naturally conceived in the Czech Republic.

According to the chief of medicine at Prague’s ‘Institute of care for mothers and babies’ all of the babies looked fighting fit when they came into the world.

Today the children, Deniel, Michael, Alex, Martin and Terezka are growing up fit and healthy.

It may be more children than Antonin and Alexandra had planned – but I’m sure they wouldn’t change their tiny blessings for the world!

Aren’t they a beautiful family?

The chance of conceiving quintuplets is one in 47 million and the chance that all 5 survive pregnancy and birth is even lower, so I definitely think this is a true miracle!

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